My husband died of cirrhosis! A single mother studied hard to get a high-level license for public employment, and took on the important task of raising a family and wanted to give her three children a

Keep reminding yourself to "don't be afraid" and to build a home for your children, an indestructible refugee port due to mutual support. /Taichung Xinshe Agricultural Association Member Liu Ruifang

When my husband died of illness, the neighborhood leaders said, "This is your life, you have to believe it." Although the old man's words are hard to say, I know that as three mothers who are hungry for their youngest son, I know: Although this is my life, I don't believe it, and I make up my mind to fight for myself and my family, "giving my children a good future"! This is my choice, and I didn't escape, but went to meet him hard.

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After more than ten years of hard work, I finally got up from the trap and had a full-time job in the farming community. The child who was hungry that year was now grown up. My eldest son graduated from the Air Force official school and is currently a flying official. The second son and the younger daughter also studied in military and high schools respectively. The three children are sensible and kind-hearted, and they never worry about me and feel relieved.

A disease breaks a dream of a family

Recalling back, before my husband passed away, our family of five had an ordinary and happy life, but unexpectedly, his partner was diagnosed with cirrhosis, which made the family covered in dust. My husband had been ill for three or four years before his death. Looking at his weak body, I was really helpless and I became more and more worried about the situation at home, because I still have three young children at home who rely on income from the food store to support the family of five. It is really hard to be very tough. It is also good that the medical expenses are supplemented by agricultural insurance, so there is no need to worry about treatment. But the bad news finally came. In 2008, my husband left me to leave with my child, and the oldest child was no more than ten years old.

However, unfortunately, the food restaurant that has survived has to choose to suspend business due to fierce competition. Our store has been in Taichung Xinshe District for twelve years. In the past, local beverage stores have not been operating for a long time. However, with the continuous development of some well-known franchise beverage stores, the business has become increasingly difficult. In the later stage, the income of the beverage store was deducting rent and costs, and it could only be balanced, and there was no profit at all.

During the hardest time, in order to pay for my children's school fees, I started selling wedding gifts. At one point, I could only let the three children eat the cheapest bowl of yangchun noodles together. Because my husband's family and friends were unwilling to lend a helping hand because of my husband's death, I could only fight alone, and life was even more difficult, but I knew that for the future of my child, I had to continue to fight.

Home support and uncle help her

The biggest dilemma that my husband encountered after his death was economic pressure. I am not afraid of hard life, but worried about the problems of my children's school expenses. Letting my children read books is something that a mother must do. I always tell my children: "Because the current environment in the home cannot be changed. Only by reading books yourself can you translate your life."

When I was isolated and helpless, fortunately, my uncle extended a helping hand. Jiafu provides long-term living assistance to the three children, and also helps apply for some bonuses to prevent children from living a life. At the same time, we are encouraged to participate in the course of the parent career development plan, learn career exploration, remember financial management, and other diverse courses such as cooking, making handmade soaps, and cleaning products. We will highly plan a clear career goal and work hard to achieve it.

Another valuable person is my uncle. He is engaged in early childhood education and believes that education is very important. No matter how hard life is, the education of children cannot be ignored. Therefore, the uncle, who is more economically up to be rich, will provide some monthly expenses with the consent of his family to provide children with books. My face is thinner, so I feel embarrassed to take the initiative to reach out to get the money. My uncle also considers my face. At the beginning of each year, I actively give me a twelve-month check, allowing me to go and see it every month. Both of these help lasted ten years, and the help was not completed after I was admitted to the farming meeting. I hope to leave the opportunity to those who need help more.

In order to seek public employment, I passed the certificate of high-rise building

Confucianism says: "People must help themselves, and future generations can help them." With the help of my family and my uncle, I also tried hard to find a better way for myself to contribute to my family, especially at that time, the business of the food store was getting worse and worse, and the three children were getting bigger and bigger, and the expenditure increased, and the income that was not enough to make ends meet would be difficult to continue to maintain. I thought I needed to find a job with a stable income.

Before working in a beverage store, I worked in the farm for at least twelve years. In addition, the beverage store is very close to the farm and has been in contact with each other at ordinary times. So when the farm is in short supply, they asked me if I would come back to work, so I put the beverage store away and changed it to the farm to be a temporary employee.

The temporary hire is actually a temporary contract, and its salary and benefits are not as good as a formal employee. I hope there is a chance to be transferred to a formal employee. This opportunity will appear two years later. The farming club decides to recruit new employees, but the applicant must have two certificates for building a height machine and a small car to be qualified to register for the exam.

Indeed, I don't know mechanical parts and engines, so I can only spend time to memorize the styles and functions of all parts; I have never used a stacking machine, and in order to obtain the qualification, I can only spend more time learning the operation of a stacking machine than others, especially the stacking machine, which is 180 cm tall, and I am a small figure and cannot see the fork in front of me when I sit on the driveway seat. Only by looking around the left and right can you move accurately. The learning process is hard and scary, but I encouraged myself to "don't be afraid, only by changing the situation can there be hope!" Every time I use my time to go to Taichung Uri to start a high-rise machine. When I got home from class, it was already 11 o'clock in the evening. Looking back, it was winter and it was very cold at night, but I didn't want to give up any opportunities. In the end, I passed the certificate in half a year..

I have never given up, and I want to give my child a home

Even with such a lot of training, I have never had the idea of "giving up". I am a very traditional person. Caring for and educating my children is the responsibility of my mother, so I don't have time to be frustrated, and I have to continue to rush with my teeth. I run around for food, rice, oil and salt every day, which makes me have no way to think about other things. The child is the motivation to keep moving forward. In addition, I will occasionally convey a lot of positive energy to my children so that their hearts can also flourish healthily. As for some dark and negative emotions, I rarely show them in front of my children. Only when the children are not at home can they be silently unable to get rid of the wound.

All three of my children are very sensible. They all see the economic conditions at home and want to help them reduce their burdens. So the eldest brother devoted himself to military positions, and the second brother studied in military school. The family didn't have to pay for his school fees. After graduation, he could have a stable job. He was still in high school and was preparing to take the college entrance exam. I feel very pleased to see the children so sensible.

Although it is very hard to walk on a single family, I believe that if you persist, you will definitely see the fruits of Fengshu, and dawn will always come. Someone asked me in the past if I had ever wanted to remarry? My answer is "No", the children no longer have a father, and I should focus on refining that lack, rather than remarrying to make them uneasy. Our family of four depended on each other and walked along the way, facing the hardships that life gave us together. Now I want to give my children a home as their shelter. No matter how heavy the rain is outside, home is your most realistic and warmest Hong Kong.

※This article is excerpted from the publication of "Life is difficult, you don't have to be difficult for yourself: 15 profound and moving single stories"