Women who dream of having children will always be particularly sensitive when they cannot get pregnant as expected. A Japanese office worker woman who has been afflicted with an affair faces her friend and is chaotic and complicated when wearing a "pregnant mother's logo" to her friends, revealing the social situation of conflict between pregnant women and those who fail to get pregnant, as well as the ethics and emotional issues raised by pregnant women's logo in public space.
《Forza Style》 reports that 35-year-old Miyin Sugahara (pseudonym) is an office worker living in Tokyo. She once dreamed of getting married and having children. After deciding to stop pursuing marriage, she gave birth through artificial insemination and tried to give birth through artificial insemination. Unfortunately, that pregnancy was born in the early stages with miscarriage. What made her even harder was that her friend B, who first learned about her miscarriage, appeared in a brief moment of meeting in just half a month later, with a bag with a "pregnancy magazine" on her back. This shocked and heartbroken American music.
B explained later that she confirmed that she was pregnant long before the Miyin spread, but she planned to wait until she entered the stable period before she announced it to her friends. However, she happened to be in a mess with Miyin spread, which made her unable to speak.
This explanation did not make American music accustomed. Instead, she thought B felt that it was too awkward to say that the words were too embarrassing, so she used a logo to hint. Regarding the motor that hangs the pregnant woman's logo, B said it was "forgot to hide it"; she said that she knew that someone would feel uncomfortable when she saw it, and usually checked whether the venue was selected to cover it, and emphasized: "Even if it is a pregnant woman, there are various types of lacerations and difficulties!"
B supplemented, and severe morning sickness occurred shortly after confirming that she was pregnant, so she put the logo on her daily bag. Although I usually use a small shoulder bag, the logo is not obvious, so I changed it to a large tote bag that can be hung on my shoulders, which makes people pay attention to it.
She also encountered an incident of being furious about her pregnancy mark. The first time was on the phone, a woman in her 60s found her mark and said in a volume that she deliberately heard, "I'm not so big, just hang up this thing. Do I want to let the seat?"
B said that at that time she didn't want to declare anything, nor did she intend to let the seat, but she was uncomfortable, but she was pregnant because she couldn't see her pregnancy on the outside, hoping to play a protective role through the map.
When she heard B's remarks about her experience, Americanyin said that she was suspicious: "If these are all true, then society is really cold. But I was really arrogant to show off her happiness at that time, so I also wondered if she said it too much."
She suspected that B said it was not for showing off, and that there were many difficulties in regulating pregnant women, but since she didn't want people to sit, what did she want to express?
B also mentioned that she was discussed by two women of high age on the bus: "What is that?", "Pregnancy is not a disease", "If you have so severe morning sickness, what bus should you take? Isn't it better to take a train?" Even mocked, "When you say you're pregnant, don't you feel like you're wearing a face?"
After listening to these words, Meiyin felt sympathy for B. , but still said critically: "But when she stands on the bus like this, the people who see her will certainly think 'Why should you let the seat'? If you say no, isn't that just a happy show-off?"
The pulling and reality of different standsAlthough Miyin herself still has plans to get pregnant, she also knows that women who stand different stands should be understood. Especially in today's increasingly serious situation of low birth, there is a need for a dialogue space and policy design that does not fall into the value-added dialogue space and policy design that does not fall into the "only production personnel deserve respect".
Crisis management consultant Shunsu Hirakata said: "The original intention of the pregnant woman's tag is to allow pregnant women to gain safety and physical prominence in public spaces, especially in the early stages of pregnancy, the belly is not yet obvious, but the physical condition has been greatly affected." For example, "I can't let the seat but want to make people understand that the body is not suitable", "I hope others will not collide", "I will avoid inhaling second-hand cigarettes", "I hope to get special disposals in disaster accidents", etc. Many pregnant women have entrusted these personal requests in this small tag.
But for women who have experienced miscarriage like Meiyin, or those who are struggling to treat infertility, pregnancy tags are sometimes seen as symbols of "happy show-off" or "not sticking to other people's situations." For ethnic groups that require special concerns in pregnant women, this society needs to resolve these soundless conflicts and misunderstandings with understanding and common sense.