If you want to support a happy marriage, women cannot give up their ability to survive! Have economic autonomy and don t give up autonomy for anyone

A woman waives work for her children and husbands, which is equivalent to losing his autonomy in marriage and becoming a hand-to-hand card, which may also cause herself to fall into a dilemma of isolation and helplessness and be born with powerlessness. Regardless, letting yourself have the ability to be economically independent and be confident and charming in marriage is the best way to maintain happiness.

What is the most desirable thing in marriage? It is definitely not a process of raising children. There is no private matter in the bathroom and no time to eat …… This kind of wolf slut is like this, because although all these wolves are, there are more replies, that is, the healthy and happy smile of the baby; it will not be a spouse's affair or cold violence. Strength, speech, body bullying, this is a stimulating thing; because once you encounter it, you can choose to leave, or find a professional to help you leave (such as a lawyer). If it doesn't work, let it go by. These lows will always have a light day.

The most terrifying thing in marriage is "losing autonomy". When you lose your autonomy, you also lose your self-esteem and anyone can step on you.

When many girls go to their parents-in-law's house to be guests, they will go to wash dishes and do housework obediently. They may want to get a good impression of the man's family, but why do they do this? Marriage management is not about using a lowered attitude to change your preferences; there is no need to give yourself and become a pet to listen to; sometimes human nature really has original sin. The more you can control it with all your power, the more you will forget that the other party is independent, and gradually ignore the other party’s personal will, which eventually becomes disrespect.

Has economic autonomy. Even if she is divorced, she can rely on her own friends to give up her job after marrying into the rich door, because her husband treats her as a princess and carries her with her when she walks, not to mention that she can ask for all kinds of luxury products. A few years later, my husband became cold and he got home less and less. Finally, he found out about his affair certificate. He said coldly: "Look at how you are now. You can't say anything about it every day when you chat. The time I knew you was too different from me!" Then, she filed for divorce and wanted to sue. The man stopped paying her money, cutting her cards, and not taking her car. …… just didn't divorce her. In those years, as a precious woman in the eyes of others, she was so deserving of her own good fortune that she certainly couldn't pay the lawyer. It took her several years to start working, saving money, and sue, and finally she left this tormenting marriage.

Another friend also married a second-generation fickle rich man, but after marriage, she continued to work, but she only reduced her responsibilities and discussed her own shares in advance when she started her career. The two-person career has developed quite well, but Mr. He is becoming more and more fickle. A few years later, she asked divorce without any intention of enduring her husband's fickleness. The husband also asked strangely: "My friend's wives can tolerate it, and I am very nice to you, why can't you bear it?" Why? She asked herself, because she didn't want to live a humble life for the sake of a luxurious life! Then why should we bear it? Because my friends were economically independent and independent, they quickly discussed the distribution of property in public and quickly divorced, becoming a single rich woman.

Don't give up your autonomy to anyone. Marriage is not a compromise. We are not in a wealthy place. But even if we have an ordinary family of small families, please do not give up your autonomy for the sake of children or those reasons! Under what circumstances is the easiest way to cause yourself to fall into such a difficult situation? When you become a hand.

Even if you want to spend your child at home, just take a job and leave your salary at work, at least let your partner understand that you will always have the chance to go back to work; or you can start to work side by side, as long as you have the ability to spend your own money, it will be difficult for people to take care of yourself; or at least practice investment and financial management! The cost of care for some families is as cost and small investment begins to be practiced, and the time is accumulated and it will be relocated to become a small wealth.

The more capable a person is, the less anyone dares to mess with him; or even if others are not attracted by him, they have the nerve to not need to throw him away. Buy whatever you want for yourself; if you want to pursue, you can bravely pursue it and no one can stop it; these are all the red benefits you can gain after you strengthen your autonomy in life and maintain your money.

Happiness in marriage is not about making the other party love you because of compromise; it is because you are independent, so it is still full of charm. Sometimes, if you understand human nature, you will lose romance; but if you understand human nature, you will gain more ability to master happiness.

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