This is done before and after marriage. The anchor couple s profile can enter the 20th year of marriage

Shenzhen media person He Rong and Kelly are about to enter their 20th year of marriage. The couple has a talented son and a daughter with high temperament. They also host programs and create brands together, and successfully cover all their careers, families and love. They are a model couple that everyone calls them. Today I want to share with us how to create a comprehensive life partner for each other after marriage?

Pre-marriage | How to determine whether the other party is the right person?

He Rong's daughter wrote a sentence on the blackboard of her classroom, "Life is a marathon, not a sprint." (Life is a marathon, not a sprint.) This sentence applies to marriage and sex. No matter how beautiful a love is, it will not last long if it cannot be implemented in such a practical life as eating, dressing, and sleeping.

For He Rong and Kelly, what is the most important feature of determining whether the two of them can get through the lower half?

He Rong: Everyone has different settings for external conditions. Kelly just meets the external characteristics of the girls I like. The internal characteristics are very friendly and understanding. She is very good at treating me and often provides me with her suggestions in a way that goes in a different position. I think "good relationship" is the most important factor in becoming a boyfriend or girlfriend or even after marriage.

Kelly: The characteristic that Brother He Rong attracted me back then was that he was talented and kind. People will definitely say he is tall and handsome, but when I knew him that year, he was not now! Ha ha! Everyone has basic preferences for appearance. More than 20 years ago, his personality traits and talent really attracted me.

After marriage | Learn each other's advantages and admit your own shortcomings

Is it good to work with a couple? When He Rong and Kelly got married, although they were both in the media circle, the two people had different personalities and had different styles of doing things. Therefore, their "common understanding" is not to "work together" and respect each other's work space.

He Rong believes that giving each other space is a very important point in marriage between husband and wife, including psychologically and timely. He said, "Some people think that being with their partner is always together, or everything must be honest and transparent, but I think they respect each other. If the other party wants to talk, you will tell them. If the other party wants to keep, you can let him keep it OK."

Kelly admitted, "When we got married, we always had a very good relationship. It's not wrong, but we chose not to work together in order to maintain a good marriage. At that time, I was shocked. Brother He Rong was a slow doctor; my personality was outside, he was outside. "

Until 2011, things began to change. The couple did not work together because they hosted GOOD together. TV TV TV's "Happiness Comes Knocks the Door" has changed. In the past five years, nearly a thousand episodes of the program have been invited to discuss the lives of husband and wife and family, and also let them learn to work together.

Kelly smiled and said that it should not be easy to see a couple co-hosting a program for 5 years and will have nearly a thousand episodes! The couple began to learn to shorten and shorten, and could stand on the other side's stand and think in their position. Because of this, the two became more and more like each other in personality.

Kelly: "In the past, he was him, and I was me; but later you will find that when you are willing to let go of each other's personality and focus on each other's advantages, you can be very happy in your marriage. Therefore, we can work together and work hard in our careers. We are the companions of life, and we are also the best partners in each other's business."

Doctor | Compared to opening up the conditions for each other, the child's judgment is more important

If we want to give our son and daughter the differences between each other's conditions, what will it be?

For my son, when looking at a girl, she first looks at her "value-for-money". He Rong explained: "We often say "hearing something rich and rich". In fact, the wife has a great influence on the husband, so she must have a very correct value-for-money. For example, my wife is a very fair and just person who is clear about right and wrong. She often reminds me how to do the right things or do the right things."

As for my daughter, the couple said in a singular manner that they wanted to find someone who absolutely cherishes her. He Rong said emotionally: "I really hope that the other half of my daughter can understand the characteristics of her daughter and know how to get along with her. The most important thing is to love her all (including the advantages and disadvantages). As parents, we keep understanding the whole child through dialogue or other methods during the growth process of our children. It may take so long to truly understand a person."

He Rong and Kelly do not believe that "setting the conditions for each other" is necessary. They will focus on observing whether their children have the ability to distinguish right from wrong. He Rong: "Like mothers often tell them that people should have the ability and wisdom to distinguish. Why? Many times, when you decide whether to do something or not at the critical moment, what you need is wisdom, not wisdom."

Since it is so important to distinguish things, it is even more important to know "know people". Children's ability to identify begins with making friends in school. He Rong and Kelly also discovered through the normal family chat that the children's value and judgment ability are actually good, and then they learn that they will be more at ease in the future.

Education | After a child leaves society, is it important to "put what he has learned"?

In the eyes of He Rong and Kelly, the son of the senior high school seems gentle and has a lot of ideas in his heart. He plays drums, guitar, dances street dance, and loves pictures very talented; the baby girl loves piano and sings, which conveys her father's passionate love and warm and perseverance, especially her strong filial piety and compassionate heart..

The women are still in a tight academic stage. From the perspective of a Shenzhen media person, they hope that their children will be better off working after graduation, or to compare the two?

He Rong and Kelly fought for TV TV program hosts from anchors and reporters. In 2011, the two jointly founded the "Love Delivery Gift Platform". They are a true slanted couple. They respect their children's interest and believe in their choices for their career plans.

The success of modern social definitions has become more and more diverse. He Rong said that many young people do not want to be a "technician", but technicians are actually like "automotive doctors", and they are also a kind of doctors. If a person knows himself well, he will not limit his potential development because he cares about the eyes of others. It is good to apply what you have learned, but they hope that their children will be like a sea of people after they leave society, and will continue to absorb new knowledge and cultivate their ability to not change continuously.

Finally, He Rong and Kelly also forced all the older fathers and mothers to raise children. Raising children is not easy, but raising children is also the happiest physical experience in life. Parents are not the owners of their children; instead, they should become the managers of their children and lead them in the right direction.

As Kelly said, children will grow up as we see our backs, so the life that parents live is the best practice.